BEFORE WE WERE MUM AND DAD

Something incredible has happened this week — I've fallen head over heels back in love with my husband. Don't misunderstand me; the love has always been there. I just got so caught up in being a mum that I forgot how to show it. So, in true Kassi style, I decided to write about it. If you've ever been through or are currently going through the 'roommate phase', especially if it lasted longer than you thought normal, I hope this resonates.

Before we were mum and dad, we were husband and wife
Two souls intertwined to create one shared life
From exchanging words of love in my dress of pure white
To two lone ships passing silently at night

As our hearts grew bigger to love this new soul
They drifted apart to take on our new roles
No stolen glances, no hugs or quick kiss
Just, "Can you hold the baby? I can't handle this"

With a clingy, sicky baby, onto muslins I clutched
By the time you came home, I couldn't stand to be touched
Our bodies transformed from lovers to strangers
What once felt like intimacy now felt like danger

Constant laundry piled high and dishes to be done
Not forgetting the 'who's more tired?' competition to be won
A team we once were but a team we weren't then
A question mark over if we'd be a team again

They said it would get easier, that it was just a phase
They said you become roommates in the early days
But two years in and the distance was still there
Date nights were scheduled but our minds were elsewhere

With a marriage to fight for, there was so much to lose
So we decided — it was time to intentionally choose
Choose to flirt, choose to love, to be 'us' once more
To remember who we were to each other before

Yes, we're mum and dad now, that much is true
But before we were parents, we were me and you
It was our love that created a beautiful new life
Yet somehow, we forgot how to be husband and wife

So I started to miss you again when you weren't there
I started to long for your touch and your stare
I started to remember the man that I wed
And not just the dad with whom I shared a bed

Now, I choose you on purpose day after day
To love, to play with, to laugh and misbehave
I remember — before we were mum and dad, we were us
And the love that unites us is one I will always trust